17 09 2006

this is my list. You know the list. Am I forgetting something?

1. bungee jump
2. fly a plane
3. take Cindy to Times Square and a Broadway Show
4. go to europe
5. go back to Hawaii
6. ski Kicking horse
7. skydive
8. watch all 6 Star Wars movies nonstop back-to-back
9. make a hole-in-one
10. run a marathon
11. surprise my mom at Christmas
12. do something big for someone. Life-changing big.
13. win something big.
14. give something big away.

why we do the things we do

15 09 2006

I find myself more and more wondering why we are so mean to each other. Throughout my day, I watch as people are mean, uncaring and downright nasty to each other. This is not what my mom taught me. Somewhere along the way, we all decided that the easiest way to get what we want is to be pushy, bossy, bitchy and angry with the people around us. The sad part is, it usually seems to work. We are all so tired of trying to reason and deal with mean people, that it’s usually easier to give in to them than to stand up for what’s right. I don’t get it. I get a call with someone requesting something.

Caller: Can I speak with this person or that person? Me: He/She isn’t available, is there something I can help you with? Caller: I have a completely innappropriate request, the answer I already know because I signed a piece of paper with all the details and asked you before I left, but I’m going to ask anyways, because, you know, I’m kind of a big deal. Me: I’m sorry, we’re unable to do that. Here’s my clear and normal explanation, which I’m repeating to you, since I told you the details completely before. You even shook your head and smiled like you were listening. Caller: I’m sorry, that’s not going to work, I don’t know if I mentioned this, but I’m kind of a big deal. I demand to get my way. Me: I’m sorry Sir/Ma’am. As I said before, I can’t do that, and you agreed to the terms of this when you signed up. Do you remember signing the agreement? Caller: YES BUT DAMNITT, I CHANGED MY MIND! I WANT OUT OF THIS DEAL! I’LL YELL AT ANYONE AND EVERYONE I HAVE TO IN ORDER TO GET MY WAY! YOU ARE HORRIBLE, YOUR COMPANY IS HORRIBLE, AND I SHOULD ALWAYS GET MY WAY BECAUSE I’M KIND OF A BIG DEAL! YOU ARE AN IDIOT! I’M BETTER THAN YOU AND THAT MEANS I GET MY WAY!

I used to take this personally you know, like this person was upset with me. Now it just makes me sad and tired. I strive to treat everyone with whom I come in contact with respect and dignity. That doesn’t make me better than the next person. I’d like to think everyone considers this. I just seems that often I deal with people who have learned that pushing and pushing and pushing gets you what you want.

So my question to you is this: How do we learn to take care of each other? To treat each other with caring and respect? To do the right thing regardless of if it’s the best thing for us?

So I’m only forever late getting this thing going.

14 09 2006

yep, I’ve been threatening go give this a shot. I’m only years behind setting it up. I have plenty of excuses, seeing as the service is free, I’ve had a computer the whole time and I know how to type. Anyway, here I am. I fully expect that this will become, more or less, a place I can blow off steam and express frustration/anger/dissappointment/rage that I experience with lifes stuff. So in that manner, this is as much for me as it is for anyone else I guess. Feel free to read it though. I’d like to say that all of the names will be changed to protect the innocent. I doubt I’ll remember to. But I am going to try. That will be my comfort after I screw it up.

To start, I work in the non-profit world. That means my main role is to try to help people. That doesn’t mean I’m a great guy who’s never an asshole. As a matter of fact, I can be a dick with the best of ’em. I don’t strive to. Actually, one of my real goals in life is to have everyone like me. I don’t even know you, and I want you to like me. I’ll try to find something we have in common and work on that to make you comfortable with me. That’s just me.

I’m sure that some of the stuff I post on here going forward will have to do with my work. My specific role in the non-profit world is customer service related stuff. This makes for lots of interesting interactions and even better stories. More to follow for sure. It’ll be cleansing for me to get them out, and maybe someone will get a kick out of them.

One thing I’ve learned about myself is that I have no concept of linear thought. I tend not to spend too much time on one particular topic. This unique (read annoying) characteristic has forced the friends I do have to be incredibly patient with me. They’re true friends though. That being said, I don’t anticipate this blog being about any one topic in particular. It’ll range I’d imagine. Or maybe it won’t.

I always thought I’d wake up one day and be a grownup. I figured I’d have all the answers and get it. Everything would make sense and all the tough stuff would seem easier. 33 years later, I’m just figuring out that my parents were winging it the whole time and that’s kind of what the rest of us have to do too. That used to scare the shit out of me, but now I see that not knowing and just trying stuff till you figure it out is one of the things that makes it all fun. I think this part will be fun for me, and I hope if you’re reading this, it’s fun for you too.